Growing up, I often heard of people discussing IQ scores. (IQ = cognitive intelligence) Then I saw a TV show that traced the life of several people with genius-level IQs. Most of the results were not great. In turn, they looked at those who had an average IQ but had what they called a high EQ. (EQ = emotional intelligence).
Emotional intelligence is considered a much better predictor of success than pure intelligence. In many cases, it doesn’t matter how high your IQ actually rates.
You know plenty of people that possess average intelligence that are very successful. The struggling genius is quite common.
Making good decisions, communicating effectively, having positive relationships, and managing yourself well can be far more valuable and powerful than a genius-level IQ.
Here are 3 ways to “Boost your EQ”:
1. Become an excellent listener.
Think about the best listener you know. You probably hold that person in high regard. Listening is a lost art that few people are interested in resurrecting.
2. Pause before you respond.
Think of all the times you wish you’d kept silent. Taking a moment to collect your thoughts can be a real advantage. You’ll save yourself a lot of grief if you give yourself the opportunity to respond wisely, or to not respond at all.
3. Develop self-awareness.
Very few people are self-aware. We have little idea of how others perceive us or how we come across to them. Just a thought: You might be significantly more rude or obnoxious than you think. Maybe you’re dismissive to others and don’t even know it.
Emotional intelligence might be what you’re missing from your life.
You can be goal-oriented, committed, and capable, but it’s difficult to rise above the level of your emotional intelligence.