It’s no secret that conflict can arise within the church. From disagreements over the direction of the ministry to personal conflicts between church members, conflict can be a challenging and emotionally draining experience. Yet, as a church leader or member, you are called to be a peacemaker and lead with grace and forgiveness. In this blog post, we will explore ways to lead with grace and forgiveness in the face of conflict within the church.


Approach conflict with an open and humble heart.


Often, conflict arises due to misunderstandings or differing perspectives. By approaching conflict with a desire to understand and seek resolution, you can create an environment of grace and forgiveness that extends beyond the individual conflict. Consider scheduling a meeting with the parties involved and ask each person to share their perspective. Listen intently and seek to understand both sides of the conflict.


Acknowledge and validate the emotions of those involved


It’s easy to become defensive or dismissive of another’s emotions when we don’t understand or agree with them. However, by acknowledging and validating their feelings, we communicate empathy and create an environment of grace and forgiveness. Use phrases like “I can understand why this would be frustrating for you” or “I’m sorry you feel that way.” These phrases communicate that you hear and understand their perspective.


Prayer should be at the forefront when it comes to conflict resolution.


As leaders, we are called to pray for one another and seek God’s guidance in difficult situations. Through prayer, we invite God’s wisdom and guidance amid disagreement and conflict. Consider praying together with those involved in the dispute.

During this time of prayer, God may download a word of wisdom or knowledge that can be shared with the parties involved.


Lead by example.


As a church leader or member, you set the precedent for how conflict is handled within the church. By leading with grace and forgiveness, you communicate to others that conflict can be handled in a healthy and respectful manner.
Choose to extend forgiveness and offer grace, even when it may not be deserved. Remember, forgiveness is not condoning the behavior but instead releasing the offense and extending compassion.


Seek counsel when needed.


Sometimes, conflict may require outside mediation or counseling to find a resolution. As a church, we have resources, such as pastoral care or outside counseling services. If leadership is involved, consider bringing in an unbiased third party to serve as a mediator. This can be done by denominational oversight or by network leader. If the church is independent, consider bringing in a mutually trusted person to help. Don’t be afraid to seek help when it’s needed. Remember, seeking counsel is a sign of strength, not weakness.

In conclusion, leading with grace and forgiveness in the face of conflict within the church is not always easy, but it’s essential. May we choose to lead with grace and forgiveness in the face of conflict within the church.